Watching the Red Roses, England’s women’s rugby team – they allowed me to train with them which was a sensational afternoon – the head coaches and the players set out the context of a training session, the big picture, the main focus. That creates the parameters.
Then the micro-coaching kicks in. The constant, player-to-player review, the coach whisper, the player-to-coach request. Emily Scarratt, Katy Daley-Mclean, Natasha ‘Mo’ Hunt, all black belts at high-cadence, uber-relevant feedback. They are always tweaking and refining.
I saw zero defensiveness, just a group of brilliant women trying to get better.
4. Focus on your strengths as well as your work-ons
As with so many things in life, a balance needs to be struck. Too much negative feedback can paralyse you. It can go too far and limit your ability to create, to dare, even to fail.
I’ve definitely watched some kids get over-coached. I’ve watched them lose their instinctive feel for the game whilst they try to juggle the tsunami of feedback that is directed at them weekly. I bet we’ve all stood over a golf ball with way too many ‘swing thoughts’ going through our heads.